Miscarriage – A Time of Loss

by Rebecca Liston, H.D., DSHomMed
As appeared in CK-Child, Winter 2009

Of all the difficult life events that I discuss with my clients throughout their care – abuse, divorce, death, illness – I have found that one life event that is extremely difficult for many women to discuss, even years after their loss, is miscarriage. Experience in working with women who have miscarried, coupled with my own loss years ago, has shown me time and again that miscarriage is largely misunderstood and often not recognized as the major life event that it is.

I have helped many women through the process of their miscarriage at the time it was occurring and I have also worked with women who have never truly recovered from the loss of their little babies months or years later. My role as a homeopath in these circumstances is to prescribe the appropriate homeopathic remedy to help the mother recover emotionally from her loss and to heal physically from the effects of the miscarriage. In addition to the prescription of medicine, I offer these suggestions to the women I care for:

• Allow yourself to process the news of your loss before you make a decision regarding medical intervention. There is rarely a need to rush into a medical procedure such as a D&C. Your body is wise and can take care of things on its own if allowed to do so.
  
  
• You are entitled to your emotions. Own them. Do not allow them to be swept away by people who say things such as, “don’t be so upset - it’s not like you won’t have another baby!”
  
  
• Allow yourself the time and space to grieve. The death of your child, no matter how early in his or her life, is a death all the same.
  
  
• Spend some quiet time reflecting on your loss. Ask yourself if there is something you could do to honour the life of your child. One of my clients had a tattoo done with her baby’s name. Another client held a burial for her baby and marked a special place on her land with a stone.
  
  
• Talk about your experience and your baby. Sharing your story will help you to process your loss, and it will help other people to understand the significance of miscarriage.

If you or someone you know has experienced the loss of their baby, share these suggestions with them and encourage them to seek help should they need it.

 

Rebecca Liston, HD, DSHomMed, is a Homeopathic Physician who is passionate about helping women. She specializes in obstetrics, gynecology, and breast health. Contact 519 667 5100 or visit www.rebeccaliston.com .